Why Didn’t He Call You Back? A Dating Coach Explains…
You meet a nice guy. He shows you lots of interest. But all of a sudden, said guy disappears off the map. Does this sound familiar? It’s a very common situation that I’m asked about frequently.
No matter how well you think your date went, it’s impossible to predict if it will turn into a long term romance, or if you’ll never get that second phone call.
That being said, there are usually two main reasons that explain why your date didn’t call you back. The first is that your date didn’t like you that much to begin with. Maybe he’s not very attracted or he doesn’t see any long-term possibilities. He may just have too much on his plate right now.
Some guys will spend lots of time with a girl he is not very interested in, which typically confuses women. Some reasons are: he wants to make someone jealous, he just wants to have sex, he is coming off a rejection, etc. No matter how beautiful and charming you are, some men will still blow you off so don’t let it get you down. Just move on to the next one.
Another reason is that you might have committed a faux pas on the last date which ended up turning him off. Many factors can lead to this so you might not be at fault..
One thing that happens while dating is that we go into what I call “screening mode” where we try to match up our date to our list of ideal qualities to see how that match up. Just like how you’ve dismissed men in the past for not measuring up, guys will do the same to you. It’s part of the game so relax and take it in stride.
However, if you seem to never be able to score a second date, then you’re probably doing something wrong. In this case, you should hire a dating coach and see if you can get down to the root of the problem. Many times, it’s just a minor issue that requires an easy fix.
I have a quick tip for you to help you determine how interested your date might be in you. First, wait for him to tell you about one of his favorite places to hang out at. Next, ask him to tell you more about it. Once he’s finished, let him know that it sounds really cool and that you’d love to check it out with him. If he likes you, he will most likely jump at the chance to take you with him. This doesn’t always work, but it’s a good little test of his interest.
Time to finish up. Some of the best advice I can give is the following: Stop focusing on the future, and instead, try to have as much fun as you can in the moment (while on the date). Detach from the outcome and focus on having fun.. This will help you create the outcome you want.. Stay tuned for more dating relationship advice and have fun in the meantime!