Utilising Online Dating Services For Adding Your Soul mate to Your Rhythm of Life
I decided last year that I wanted to find my soul mate online. I had avoided taking this drastic measure for several years but it seemed like everyone I know, including friends and co-workers, are signing on, creating profiles, and finding love online. If they can make it happen, why can’t I?
Looking for the Right Notes
Life and the notes on a sheet of music are both similarly rhythmic. People come and go, but at some point you want to hear the full concerto. I knew that when I could find my soul mate, the missing notes in my life would be found. A soulmate adds to life’s rhythms but in a way that is enduring.
New to the world of internet dating, when I began finding my soulmate online I was hesitant to disclose information about myself. I was hesitant on how much of myself to share online and unsure about how to catch the attention of other users. I started searching for success stories of other users to find the answers to these problems. What I found was truly inspiring and gave me real inspiration.
I found out that out there, I wasn’t the only apprehensive first-timer. The first time Cynderella and her current husband met was in a chat room. She was deprived of choice in regard to dating options because she was from a small town in a rural area. Like me, her friends suggested she try internet dating.
Cynderella met MJ after just one week. She went through his profile after he first sent her an emoticon showing his interest in her. Being intrigued by what she saw, she decided to respond to him. This in turn led to a month filled with IMs and emails flying back and forth between them. Finally, they took it to the next level and met offline.
Cynderella flew to met MJ because he lived in another state . She knew that she had found her match the very moment when she stepped off the plane. “I had been transformed, from being a nervous Nelly I was now a self-confident woman flying across the country to meet a man. Online dating made me feel more powerful and capable of actually controlling my own life. Fortunately for me I found my soulmate and we both live together happily…and in the same state” says Cynderella. The music was loud and clear for all to see even if the glass slippers were missing.
Surprises That Make You Happy!
I came across Mark’s story when I was continuing the search for my soulmate. Mark first met H2O when still in college. He was surfing the web with some friends when they stumbled upon a banner for a dating site. They decided to explore the site as a joke.
As the night progressed further Mark and his friends made a bet. They said they’d wash his athletic gear for a year if Mark could get a date on the online site within a month. Mark agreed to the bet.
He made his profile and started chatting with women, most of whom were highly offended by the bet but Mark continued to be honest for as he says “I wanted to be upfront about the bet so that it doesn’t become an issue later on”.
The end of the month was drawing near and Mark assumed he had lost the bet. he’d have to wash his gear and that of all his friends for the whole next year.
Two days before the d-day, Mark found a profile that caught his interest. He wrote her an email, she responded immediately and before they knew it they were chatting the whole night. H2O was from a nearby town so they decided to meet at a local movie theatre. The bet seemed irrelevant to her. In the words of Mark, this is because “She has a fantastic sense of humour. “After dating for just 6 months we knew we wanted to be together forever. We are now engaged and plan to get married in 2010.”
Enjoying the Music
While trying to search for love I was led to great success stories, but it also showed me the problems you can face if you are not careful. Mad4You met a wonderful man who matched all of her criteria. “I could not believe we had so many interests in common.” After chatting just a few times, Mad4You says she was “very attracted”. However, there were problems. Nothing stops a person who claims to be divorced from a previous spouse from being married now!”
The number of single parents looking for love online surprised me. Many singles say that single parents are often great matches. Just make sure your kids are compatible if you find true love!
Yellowtutu met the man of her dreams on an internet dating site. She was a single mother with 3 teenaged children. The man she connected with, Digthis, also had 2 sons from a previous marriage. They chatted and communicated for months before letting the kids know.
On the first date Yellowtutu’s eldest daughter fell head over heels for Digthis’s younger son. He too was attracted towards her and so they started meeting without their parents knowledge for over a year. Eventually Yellotutu and Digthis realized that they weren’t perfect for each other at which point the kids spilt their story.
“Though the relationship may not have worked for me I can still fully justify it. My daughter found her perfect match and they’ve been happily married for more than 3 years and also given us the 2 most beautiful grandchildren ever” says Yellowtutu. It hit me then that anything can happen when you go online searching for your soulmate.
Yes…every aspect of life has rhythm. When I find my soulmate, or when you find yours, be sure to listen closely. The notes will become fuller and the music will swell.