How to Ask Questions to a Girl
It should be pretty obvious that the only way you are going to get to know a woman is to sit down with her and ask her questions. Yes, there are lists of idiotic “date questions” out there like, “If you were trapped on a deserted island, what three movies would want to watch for the rest of your life?” Don’t use these. They come off desperate and awkward. Plus, they just kill all attraction between you and the woman.
Don’t waste your brain-space remembering “date questions”. What you want to do is just talk to the woman naturally. Men often memorize stupid questions as a crutch to deal with feelings of nervousness or anxiety that they get. Unfortunately, all these lines will only hurt you. Get out of your head and try to live more in the moment, dialing into what’s going on between you two. Pay attention to how she responds to things and start to really care about her experience. You’ll never be at a loss for words .
Lot of men fall into the trap of asking too many “yes/no” type questions. If this is you, stop. This will turn awkward quickly as your conversation starts to feel like an interview.
Do you live around here? - Yes.
Do you work in the city? - Yes.
Do you like cats? - Nope.
Do all these dumb questions bother you? - Yes.
Instead, ask questions that require an explanation and make her put some of herself out there.
What do you think about the ABC District of town? - Oh! I love that place! In fact, I just got an apartment there!
Really? What’s the best thing about that neighborhood? - These’s just so much history in that place! It never gets boring. yadda yadda yadda.
You get the picture here.
Ask the woman things about her life. Get to know her better and understand how she sees the world. Keep looking deeper by asking questions such as “How does that make you feel?” or “What was that like?” You can also pay attention to how she reacts to things that you talk about and ask things like “You seemed a bit sad when you were telling me about your job. Would you tell me more about that?” You might even help the woman discover things about herself that she didn’t even know.
After you do this a little bit, it may start to seem that the two of you are completely separated from the rest of the world in your own private bubble. You might be at the craziest club around, but the two of you will feel like you are completely isolated from everyone else and in a world of your own.
Doesn’t that sound a lot better than “If you were a song, what kind would you be?”
So, please leave the stupid questions to those online surveys your friends send you. Simply come into the interaction completely and let things just take root on their own.Ask the woman questions and get to know her more. So feel free to ask anything that you want, so long as you are truthfully interested in the answer.
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